shedding light on...
The DARK SIDE of ADOPTION
189 pages, perfeft binding, 125 endnotes
by M. Riben
Adoption, is at once glamorized as an altruistic win-win event whereby a loving couple takes an otherwise unwanted child and they all live happily-ever- after... and, at the same time, pitied as a second-best choice for all involved. For many, of the more than 25 million people1 affected by it, adoption meets their personal expectations and is every bit as good as society’s romanticized illusion. For others, however, adoption has been less than a "wonderful match" or a "perfect solution." Many whose lives have been irrevocably touched by adoption are painfully aware of the problems inherent in the current sealed adoption system.
shedding light on...THE DARK SIDE OF ADOPTION was written in recognition of the all too real problems inherent in the current sealed-record adoption system, and offers solutions to make adoption more humane. Far ahead of its time, this in-depth exposé is more relevant today than when it was written.
The Dark Side of Adoption exposes the under-belly of what once was an idyllic social solution and has become a corrupt, greed and profit driven, international business of selling babies.
shedding light on...THE DARK SIDE OF ADOPTION is also an in-depth, investigative report of the "shadowy figures" in adoption: birthparents. Prior to is publication in 1988 the few informational materials on adoption available, which included birthparents at all, either spoke about them or for them. To this day, most adoption books mention birthparents at the time of birth and surrender only, rather than dealing with birth parenthood as a lifelong process. While not biographical in nature, The Dark Side of Adoption affords parents who lost childrento adption (birthparents) their first ever voice.
While the content is controversial, the material is presented without sensationalism, The Dark Side of Adoption is scrutinized with the same thoroughness with which we have been forced to view abuses in the family, in the foster care system, and day care centers, recognizing that only when we can honestly assess what is wrong with an institution are we able to explore solutions. A humane society must have provisions to protect its most innocent citizens: the children, putting their rights before those of any and all adults involved. At the same time, we need to create a system that recognizes and balances the rights and needs of adopted citizens as they grow to independent adults.
1 A rough estimate based on adoptees, adoptive parents, birthparents, siblings and other immediate family members.
*Mirah Riben (aka Marsha Riben)